<![CDATA[BabeYouTrippin - Relationship Insights]]>Tue, 17 Aug 2021 23:51:30 -0700Weebly<![CDATA[He's Not Worth It!]]>Wed, 25 May 2016 04:04:32 GMThttp://www.babeyoutrippin.com/relationship-insights/hes-not-worth-it
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  Too many times I speak with women who have had their lives trashed by "Sorry Ass Men".  They all begin with the same story, "He was so sweet and funny in the beginning".

  Really?  Was he?  Or did you just want to believe that he was Mr. Perfect because you were tired of being alone?  

  Ladies, you've got to do your due diligence before letting some man slide past your guard and flip your life upside down.  This is why tonight, I'm going to tell you about 3 types of guys you should avoid at all cost.

The Wannabe Dope Dealer

  I don't know what some women find attractive in the so called "dope dealer" that never has any money.  I mean, if he's moving so much product, why is he still living with his mom?  I mean, if he was that legit would he really need to stay in your crowded house along with your two kids?

  What is the appeal in the guy who not only risks his freedom, but yours as well, by bringing drugs into your home?  You have heard of DSS right?  What do you think they do when they find out drugs are in the home along with small children?

  I can't tell you the number of women that I have worked with who have lost custody of their children because they were following behind some scum because he was "fun".  If fun is going to visit your boyfriend in jail while you take care of 2 kids at home, I don't know what to tell you.

  But if you're a lady that doesn't think that kind of lifestyle is fun, remember, the next time a lame ass dope dealer tries ask you for your number run the other way.  It's not worth the risk.  

The Alcoholic/Druggie 

  Dating a drug dealer is bad enough, but now you want to date a drug addict?  Talk about jumping out of the frying pan into the fire...smh.

  Ladies, there is nothing cute about a man on a crack binge or an alcoholic soak trying to break a television set over your head.  Drugs and alcohol have their place and time, but they should not be in your relationship.

  It's hard enough, just dating someone sober..lol  You've got to learn to communicate, trust each other and work as a team.

  Now how much harder do you think that's going to be when your boyfriend is higher than the light bill?  How frustrating is it going to be when you send him to the store for groceries and he comes back 5 hours later smelling like pure shit?

  And yeah, I bet someone's saying, "He's not like that, he only does a little bit".  

  I wish you could see my face right now, but I'm not laughing.  How much dope do you think it takes for someone to get pulled over by the cops?  How drunk does someone have to be to slam you and him into a tree because he was a little tipsy?

  Gotta be smart out there..looks aren't everything.  

The Broke Ass Never Worked A Day In His Life Guy

  For some reason, a lot of women love this guy...lol

  I mean you can see him coming from a mile away.  Allow me to describe him for you...

  - 3 kids all with different "Baby Mommas"
  - Behind on child support
  -  Tries to move in one week after dating
  - Has an Xbox controller glued to his hand 24/7
  - Won't take out the trash
  - Can't cook
  - Borrows money from you and uses your car all day while you're at work
  - Uses a cell phone that you pay for

  Let me know if any of this sounds familiar.  I'm telling you, I've seen it and I still don't get it.  What do you see in this guy?  He's practically a waste of space, he's a black-hole that sucks the life and money out of everything and anyone that gets too close.  

  Oh, I get it, "He's cute".  Well, I'm here to tell you that looks don't pay bills, unless he's a stripper.  Sex doesn't put food on the table if he's not a hooker.  

  So why are you wasting your time on someone that doesn't even care enough about themselves to try and improve?

  He's a grown ass man and he's just using you until he can do better.  But you..you deserve better...so what will you do?  Continue to support his broke ass or kick him to the freakin curb?

So Yeah, I Went Off A Bit..

  But I did it, so you can know what type of garbage is floating around out here.  Numerous women both young and old come to me weekly with their problems and when we get to the root of them, 9 times out of 10 there is a guy like the ones I described or worse at the bottom of it all.

  Have fun and be safe, but use that noodle upstairs before opening your heart to some joker just because he flashed you a cute smile.

                                                                                                                             Stay Drama Free
                                                                                                                            -Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
]]><![CDATA[The First & Last Date:  Megan's Story]]>Wed, 04 May 2016 06:11:20 GMThttp://www.babeyoutrippin.com/relationship-insights/the-first-last-date-megans-story
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  She spent hours getting ready making sure that every hair was in place and not one eyelash was offset.  She knew that tonight would be a night she would never forget because finally he would be coming to her home.  She would now have him all to herself or at least borrow him for a few hours she thought.

  But, even in her wildest dreams, tonight would not be the best night of her life, but the beginning of the worst relationship she ever had.  This is Megan's story and hopefully, you won't make the same mistake.

Scene One - Greetings

  When Steve finally arrived at her home, he walked up to the door just like the gentleman she thought he would be.  He moseyed up to her door carrying a large bouquet of roses in one hand and a small box of chocolates in the other.

  Now, how did he know she liked chocolate?  Was it something she told him during that awkward lunch at work?  Or maybe it was because when she first saw him, she was throat deep into a giant snickers when they first locked eyes.

  None of that matters now because the moment was finally here, as he knocked on the door with 3 sharp raps.  *Knock..Knock...Knock*

  Megan ran down the stairs with the speed of a cheetah only slowing down to avoid slipping on a small throw rug in front of the door.  

  "He's here!", she thought.  When she finally opened the door, there stood all 6'5 of Steve and his amazing smile.  Steve looked like one of those Calvin Klein ads you see sprinkled throughout most grocery lane magazines.

  He was tall, chiseled and the host of the deepest dimples known to man.  Steve was a complete dream boat come to life and now he was standing in front of her open door.  

  And in one swift motion, Megan took the chocolates and seductively pulled him into her home.    

Scene Two - The Kiss

  As soon as Steve crossed the threshold, his lips made a beeline straight for her eager mouth waiting to receive.  

  The kiss was passionate, as caresses turned into full on gropes and panting graduated into deep erotic moans. She wanted nothing more than to rip his clothes off right then and there and climb all 6'5 of Steve's gorgeous body.  But, she paused because she didn't want to seem too eager.

  Now, Steve wasn't much of a talker and he only engaged in small talk that she would care to hear like, "How was your day?" and "You look so hot right now".  Steve could of told her that he could only stay for an hour because he thought his wife was suspicious of him leaving the house so early.  

  ...But for some reason he didn't.

  Megan was so consumed in her fantasy of having this hot guy in her home that she failed to remember that he was a married man.  She stripped his clothes off and proceeded to kiss him on the neck and somewhere in between her clothing fell off as well.  

  Long kisses turned into even longer licks and everything soft between them became ever so rigid and full of hot pulsing blood.  It was all Megan could do to remember to reach on the coffee table and grab a condom, even though she didn't slip it on him before he was inside.

  With hormones and juices surging between them, Sex was in the air.  It was like a mist in the room staining the walls, the stairs and her couch.  Megan's little Pomeranian dog just lowered it's head and tiptoed into the kitchen, as if it didn't want to stick around for the conclusion.  

Scene Three - Surprise!

  A good forty-five minutes passed, even though it seemed like hours just whizzed over there naked bodies.  

  And that's when there was a violent bang on the door.  It sounded like someone was outside with a battering ram trying to get inside with one blow.

  Megan stammered to her feet, still drunk from Steve's mountain and peered out of her side window.  "Holy shit!" she thought.  Steve's wife was outside barefoot and holding what appeared to be a Louisville Slugger.

  Now, Steve's wife isn't your average cup of tea because she's every bit of 6'2 compared to Megan's side-table stature of 5'3.  Plus, she's on the company softball team and never hits anything less than a home-run.  But in simple terms, she could snap Megan like a twig with just one hand.

  Megan ran over to Steve and explained that his wife was outside, but Steve didn't appear to be alarmed in the slightest.  Megan pleaded with him to get up and make her leave, but he refused and merely strolled to the kitchen to get a glass of water.

  "What the fuck is his problem?" Megan thought.  "How the hell is he so cool right now when his wife is about to come in her and kick both of our asses?", she pondered.  

  Then out of nowhere *Boooom!!!*

  Megan's door flies off the hinges knocking over her favorite vase containing the floors Steve just brought her.  Keisha looked like a crazed psychopath swinging that big wooden bat in her hand, all the while eyeballing Megan's naked body and Steve's after sex glow.

  Steve nonchalantly walked over to his wife and tried to "justify" his actions, but he was cut short with a grand slam to his side of his head.  No fighting..No screaming..Just a loud thud.

  Megan began panicking and pleading for her life, but Keisha was also like Steve and not big on words.  She casually strolled over to Megan and whispered her, "Everything is going to be okay".

  Before laying that Louisville across the bridge of Megan's nose so perfectly that she was dead before she even hit the floor.  

So What's The Moral Of This Story?

  I could tell you, but I want to know what you think about it first in the comments below.  

                                                                                                                                  Stay Drama Free
                                                                                                                             -Jamaal(LoverOfLife)


]]><![CDATA[Will You Still Love Me, Tomorrow?]]>Wed, 27 Apr 2016 05:24:42 GMThttp://www.babeyoutrippin.com/relationship-insights/will-you-still-love-me-tomorrow
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  Do you find that sometimes you're never really sure if his feelings are genuine or just in the moment?

  You playback the whole night in your mind leading all the way up to where you are now...standing in the doorway with him wanting to come in.

  But what will you do?  You wonder things like, "If I let him in, will he still love me tomorrow?" and...

Is He Just Out For An Easy Lay?

  He could be..but the real question is what do you want?

  Do you want to try to build a relationship with this guy?  Can you see yourself with this guy several months from now walking in the park?  Or are you just out for a little fun yourself?

  Just remember there's nothing wrong with letting his mind wonder in curiosity for just a little while longer.  Because if he's really that into you, he'll be blowing your phone up before get out of that long cold shower.

Does He Even Care About Me As Much As He Says He Does?

  It's possible, but then again, "How many bottles of wine did you two drink?"

  You know one thing about drinking and dating is that inhibitions have a way of taking a backseat.  All the little red flags and doubts that litter our conscious have a way of evaporating the more intoxicated one becomes.

  So what do you do?  In my opinion, if you are unsure, then the answer is "No".  All it takes is one misguided moment of passion and All Hell Breaks Lose.

  But then again, there's just something so alluring and mischievous about hot sex with someone you just met.

Is This Even Something I Want?

  Ding..Ding..Ding..You've found the million dollar question!

  Is this something you even want?  I know you're horny, but is this what you had planned for your night?

  Go out to the bar and bring some random guy home?  If it is, then Jackpot..lol  But, if not you may want to wait until you sober up a bit.

  Now there's two ways to do this and possibly still salvage the night.  One being to invite him in and prep some food so both of you sober up and the second is to give him a long hot steamy kiss that would make a pornstar jealous..just before you say "Goodnight Chuck" ;)

  As I said in the beginning, if he's into, he'll respect you and be watching the phone like a hawk. 

So Why Did I Write This?

  I wrote this because I know what it's like to be eye to eye with the point of no return.  You know that moment when if you do it, nothing will ever be the same.  That point where, you know you'll have all types of fun, but the stakes are higher than the light bill.

  Now, if you haven't found yourself in a situation such as the one discussed above, don't worry you will..lol  But the difference is when it happens for you, you can recall these words and make a decision knowing full well that nothing will be the same after.

                                                                                                                               Stay Drama Free
                                                                                                                          -Jamaal(LoverOfLife)

  If you enjoyed reading this insight, share it with another person.  Maybe these words can help that friend of yours whose always calling you at 2am to come get her ass out of trouble ;)
]]><![CDATA[R.E.S.P.E.C.T]]>Wed, 20 Apr 2016 06:24:43 GMThttp://www.babeyoutrippin.com/relationship-insights/respect
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  When it comes to being respected in your relationship there are many reasons it can seem like a never-ending fight.  Especially, if you're already having a hard time respecting yourself.

  Now why would I say that?  Well, you already know some people out there lead with their best "Assets" more so than their mind and end up used and discarded.  Don't let this be you.

  So to help you accomplish this, I think it's time we take a look at the word "Respect".  Are you ready?  

Respect Your Body

  You'd think this would be a no-brainer, but for some reason it's still what trips a lot of women up.

  For some reason, they think that if they look a certain way, "Men will give them attention".  Well, this is true, but it's not the kind of attention someone wanting a real relationship seeks.  The only kind of attention that comes to someone based solely on physical attraction is full of sex and empty feelings.

  Now, I'm not saying that two sex kittens haven't magically hit if off from time to time, but for the majority, it doesn't always work out quite so well.  When you lead with your "Ass-ets" or your "Bre-ast foot", you can expect the guy to step forward with his Ugly Stick lacking any semblance of intelligence.

  So just remember, your body is not a toy to be used and abused, it is something that supports life, gives life and should only be shared with someone worthy of your attention.  

Every Decision You Make Or Don't Make Shapes The Outcome

  When you don't make decisions in life, other people make them for you and sometimes the result isn't always in your best interest.  

  As you begin a new relationship, you will be hit with 100s of choices that ultimately shape the tone and pace of future interactions.  Everything from picking something to eat for dinner, all the way to where you two will spend your One Year Anniversary.  

  It never stops and each decision either takes you closer or farther away from your goal.  So why not be decisive in your actions, at least that way, when the smoke clears you can't blame anyone for not being happy in your relationship.  

Searching For Love In The Wrong Places Won't Lead To Happiness

  I don't think I have to tell you, but that guy in the club trying to get you to follow him in the bathroom is not Mr. Right.

  He's Mr. Right Now, but men like him are a dime a dozen, so why even waste your time?  Unless you're just looking for a little late-night action, if so then have at it..lol  But for someone looking for a quality partner that will be there in the morning... 3 years down the road, they opt for a higher quality of hunting ground.  

  Now you have to decide what that means for you, but I can guarantee you that it's not in that dirty bathroom with the dim light.  

People Will Always Have Something Negative To Say

  You already know I had to go there with this one...

  It doesn't matter how happy you are or miserable, you can always count on someone having something negative to say about your relationship.

  They will pick it apart, crucify it and compare it to every bad relationship you or they have had in the past.  

  These are your haters, they can and will destroy your relationship if you let them.  

Enjoy The Little Things In Life

  If you find yourself single at the moment, don't fret..enjoy it.

  Enjoy it to the fullest because you won't be single your whole life.  Eventually, you will find someone that's going to tickle your fancy and you'll be off to the races.

  So in the meantime, enjoy the quiet and pursue your dreams and goals.   

Choose Your Men With Discretion

  If a guy has 3 kids with 3 different women and isn't paying child support or even being a part of any of their lives, Why would anyone think it's going to be different with them?

  It's just not going to happen.  You can't change anyone and thinking that you can is the gateway to long nights of Advil and drama.

  Why did I say that?  I said it because it just needed to be said and if it doesn't apply to you, please pass that to any woman you know that thinks different.  

  You can't save every man you meet nor should you try to.  Men are full of drama just like everyone else on the planet.  It doesn't matter how good he looks in the suit or how well he seems to be doing financially, he's got issues of his own.

  So be sure the magazine is worth reading before you buy your subscription;)

Take A Moment To Reflect Every Now And Again

  Now, just for conversation's sake, we're going to say you've found a decent one and he's doing everything the last one didn't and more.

  Don't become blind to the fact that people change and sometimes what they wanted in the beginning isn't always what they want in the end.

  This is the reason it's important to take a moment and reflect on the direction of your relationship from time to time.  Who knows maybe your goals have changed?  

  Maybe you wanted kids in the beginning and now you don't.  Maybe he wanted to get married 5 years ago and now he doesn't.  This is why taking the time to reassess your relationship is a good way to reduce your chances of spending 10 years with someone that has no intention of giving you what you want in the end.  

And There You Have It...R.E.S.P.E.C.T

  So, I'm curious to know what you thought of this insight and how you respect yourself in your relationships.  Share a few words with me in the comments below.

  Also, you can find me on Twitter or Facebook if commenting isn't really your thing.

                                                                                                                             Stay Drama Free
                                                                                                                         Jamaal(LoverOfLife) 
]]><![CDATA[Relationships Are A Two-Way Street]]>Wed, 13 Apr 2016 05:10:08 GMThttp://www.babeyoutrippin.com/relationship-insights/relationships-are-a-two-way-street
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   You know there's nothing worse than a woman prioritizing a man's needs when she's second, if not third on his list of importance.  

  So why do so many women do it?  Drive miles to see a man who hasn't even visited her home once?  Spend her rent money on fixing his motorcycle when he's just going to use it to go hang with friends?

  Seems kind of lopsided doesn't it?  I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want a relationship with someone that doesn't truly understand the concept of give and take.  Allow me to explain...

For Relationships To Work They Require...

  Two people working together to achieve a common goal of happiness, companionship and whatever their hearts mutually desire.  

  A relationship serving only one partner's needs can leave the other feeling "used", "inadequate" or any number of many unpleasant emotions.  

  I understand the need to be "wanted" or "desired", but how much are you willing to trade for it?  Are you willing to sacrifice your own happiness just to say "I'm in a relationship"?  Are you willing to put all of your time and energy into someone that will drink from any cup that's handed to them?

  Wouldn't you rather be with someone that puts at least half, in not all of that same energy and desire back into the reservoir?  You see..

Relationships Are A Two-Way Street

  It's a matter of give and take.

  Meaning that not only one person is filling the cup while the other drinks, it's about taking turns so that each person is satisfied throughout the life of the relationship.

  If you can drive 300 miles to see him, he should drive 300 to see you.  If you can forego a weekend with the girls to go on his stupid fishing trip, he should be able to miss the football game and spend the day doing whatever is on your agenda.

  It's that give and take that enables relationships to withstand the hands of time.  Sure you can hop to a bench with one leg, but it's easier to walk with two feet.  Do you agree?

So Why Do So Many Women Chase After Selfish Men?

  Well, as I said above, it's about needing to feel wanted or desired.  Everybody wants to be a part of something, it's just that some people need it more than others.

  For example, take a woman who wants a relationship with someone that's going to go the distance.  She gives him her best at every turn, even goes out of her way to make him happy.  All in the hopes that one day, he will reciprocate...but he never does.

  I mean, he said all the right things and never yelled, so why didn't he put in the effort?

  Well, that's because he never had to, she made it easy for him.  She spoon fed him her affection from the start, setting the stage for it to be a relationship of receiving rather than one of reciprocation.

What Should I Do If I'm In A One-Sided Relationship?

  The short and easy answer is: End It Now

  The long and twisted is to stop and talk about what you feel is lacking in your relationship.  If you feel that "Babe" is dragging ass and not bringing anything to the table, let him know.  If you feel that he should come to see you sometimes rather than you always driving to see him, let him know.

  If he doesn't agree to your requests or at least make some effort to meet your needs, this guy isn't someone worth another second of your time.

  There's too many people out there that would love to be in his shoes, but you're too stuck on this loser to see it.  

  But, the choice is yours.  You can either continue to chase this goofball for the rest of your life or be caught by someone whose willing to meet you halfway.

So What Do You Think?

    Are relationships a 2-Way Street?  Are they a working relationship of give and take or something else?

  Let me know in the comments below and as always...

                                                                                                                                   Stay Drama Free
                                                                                                                              -Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
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