Hello Jamaal,
Okay, so I don't really ask for advice because that's just not something I do. I'm a bisexual male and I kind of have two friends that I'm hooking up with. One is a boy and the other is a girl. They don't know about each other and I care about them the same. How can I be honest with them and myself at the same time?
Okay, so I don't really ask for advice because that's just not something I do. I'm a bisexual male and I kind of have two friends that I'm hooking up with. One is a boy and the other is a girl. They don't know about each other and I care about them the same. How can I be honest with them and myself at the same time?
Well, when it comes to dating more than one person, things can't help but to become complicated. I see what you're saying about wanting to be honest and valuing their feelings, but understand that someone's feelings are going to be hurt.
There's just no way to date or hook up with two people that don't know about each other and no one gets upset. The fact that you're having difficulty keeping your feelings together shows that you may be having some second thoughts on the relationships as well.
What I would do is check in with myself to see what I want in my life at this time. If with the guy is where you want to be, then be with him and cut the girl off. If with the girl is where you want to be, cut the guy off and be with her.
But..if you're feeling brave and ready to face the whatever fate brings, I would tell the one I cared about most what I was feeling and what was going on. Now they could flip out and cause a whole lot of drama for you or they might surprise you and say they are doing the same thing.
Are you ready for that truth? Good Luck to you and your relationships.
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
There's just no way to date or hook up with two people that don't know about each other and no one gets upset. The fact that you're having difficulty keeping your feelings together shows that you may be having some second thoughts on the relationships as well.
What I would do is check in with myself to see what I want in my life at this time. If with the guy is where you want to be, then be with him and cut the girl off. If with the girl is where you want to be, cut the guy off and be with her.
But..if you're feeling brave and ready to face the whatever fate brings, I would tell the one I cared about most what I was feeling and what was going on. Now they could flip out and cause a whole lot of drama for you or they might surprise you and say they are doing the same thing.
Are you ready for that truth? Good Luck to you and your relationships.
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
