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Now this may seem like a No-Brainer for most of you, but some people just don't get the basics. There are certain things one should and should not do if they are trying to nurture a relationship. Too many times, we've all heard people complaining that they can't keep a girl or get a guy, but it's really not that hard when you think about it. Look through this list and see if you're guilty of any of the following...
#1 Physical Abuse- Putting Yo Hands On The Bae
| Seems some people just don't understand that you don't hit the bae. Doesn't matter if it's a man or woman, you don't hit the bae. This shouldn't even have to go up here, but people still do it. If you're hitting your lover, babe, friend or whatever you two are, don't be surprised when they leave or have you locked up. It just doesn't make any sense whatsoever. Be mad, but find another way to vent those frustrations. When you take it upon yourself to physically control a stressful situation, you are subject to laws and consequences that will completely phuck your life up..lol Seriously, you will lose. No one wants to hire someone that's abusive and someone may actually kill you one of these days. |  No one deserves to be hit |
#2 Yelling Or Shouting- Are You Deaf?
 Here's an idea..How about STFU! | 'Wow, really? Are you just going to scream at the top of your lungs with me only 2 feet away? I can hear you" Ever felt like saying that to someone? Or had someone say that to you? Screaming or yelling only adds to the chaos, it will not bring permanent peace to your plight. If you're ever in an argument with your sweety and need a minute, Take a minute! Go walk it out, shake it out, but don't scream. It's annoying and you will find that your babe will not want to hear your loud mouth for too long. It's kind of hard to argue by yourself, isn't it? Learn to control your response to anger. |
#3 Lying- Not Telling The Truth
| "If you need to lie, then you already know you're not ready to be in a real relationship" What's the point of lying to your babe? What do you stand to gain that won't come back and bite you in the ass later? Just tell the truth. If you phucked up, then own up to it. Why drag out the inevitable, be a woman or man and fess up to your truths. The more you lie, the more you have to remember a lie and the more your relationship becomes a lie. There's a saying, that the truth shall set you free. Honesty is always the best policy. Here's a challenge, try telling the truth for once! |  Oh, you're name isn't Mary? Who the hell are you? |
#4 Emotional Abuse- Put Downs
 All my tears are on the inside and it hurts | "You good for nothing S.O.B, you ain't shit just like the rest of em!" "You can't cook for shit, you can't clean, what are you even good for" Hold your horses folks..lol Easy does it. No need for name-calling or insults. This isn't the third grade and you're not on the playground. If you can't express your feelings in a constructive and productive way then your relationship is doomed. No one wants to be with someone that makes them feel bad about themselves. Relationships are supposed to nurture and improve well-being not destroy. |
#5 Creepin-Cheating With The Side Piece
| You creepin, low-down snake, what the hell are you doing? If you don't like him or her you should just leave. Why even serve ice-cream to your babe when it comes in a shit-flavored bowl? Now, no ones perfect, but come on, if you can't keep your legs closed for 5 minutes or keep your staff in it's sheath then you've got issues..lol Cheating doesn't just hurt your babe, it hurts everyone within the relationship. You thought that the cousin taking care of Lil Suzy wouldn't feel it? You think that you're pulling one over? Only person your cheating is yourself because you may have just missed out on the person that could have truly made a difference in your life. |  Yeah Tiger, I'm talking about you...lol |
#6 Poor Hygiene- Not Taking Care Of Yourself
 Make me remember why I love you | "Oh Lord, someone get this girl a bath A.S.A.P!" You ever notice how when we get in relationships we tend to let little things slip that we once made sure to tidy up? The most obvious one would be if you were 350 when you meet babe and now your 460, it's time to tighten up. If you had that Mentos breath on the first few dates, how you gonna bring the flaming dragon to bed? We're all guilty of slacking at some point, but as long as one gets back on the horse, there's hope. It's the folks that don't take those subtle hints from babe that will perish in the fire. Take pride in your body, Use the Shower...lol |
#7 No Goals- Having No Direction In Life
| "Okay, you just loafing around and having amazing sex all night was great at first, but now it's time for real life" As you grow in a relationship, you'll notice that it's no longer just a weekend thing or even a late night creep, the real world steps in to play. So one of you not having a job or any personal goals can seem like the other doesn't care about their future. Sure the bae smokes weed, but is that all he or she does? Do they even have a vision of a better future? Are they taking steps to make it happen? Are you? Even if you're not the 9-5 job-type, create goals for your future. No one wants to marry a slacker. |  Pull Your Own Weight |
#8 Crying All The Time- Fix Your Face!
 It's just that it was my favorite shirt...Really? | "What are you crying about this time? Is it really that serious? I mean, I know your favorite shirt is missing, but come on, are you phucking kidding me?" Don't be a wet blanket. If every time babe says something that you don't like and you cry, you are being a wet blanket. I don't know about you, but wet blankets go in the washer and then the dryer. If your are an overly emotional person, it's okay, there are medications that can help you with that. If you are on the verge of a nervous breakdown or pregnant, ask for help. But... If you just cry because you never learned how to cope with real life, then Houston we have a phucking problem..lol Fix Your Face! |
#9 Stalking Your Babe- Suffocating Their Space
| How long have you been following me? How long have you been standing there? And why are you calling me nonstop, all day long? Have you ever had to ask Babe those questions? Felt like Babe just can't take a hint that you need space? If yes, then he or she is probably a Creeper. Steer clear of the Dead Stare. Now, if you are one that tends to watch Babe from a distance, incognito, under the cloak of darkness, Get Help. Lol..Seriously, it's unhealthy too be that needy, Talk to someone A.S.A.P! If you're that insecure, you could seriously end up hurting someone, if not yourself. Just Sayin.. |  I stalk because I am afraid of the loneliness 0_0 |
#10 Lack Of Independence- Someone Else Is Paying Your Bills
 | Should I take em to church? Should I ring the bell on this one? Want me to do it? Okay, since you asked... And even if you didn't..here it is... If you can't meet your own needs and are dependent on someone else for the maintenance and upkeep of your life, you are Dependent. Some people like this, but most don't. People want an equal, not someone they have to baby or coddle just to get them through life. It's really not a good look if you can't support yourself. Now, if your sick and disabled, you need those supports, but if your able and just a spoiled adult, you will find that people don't take you seriously. "How can you support us, if I should fall?" Relationships are a partnership not a pacifier and a fresh nipple. Grow Up! |
I hope you didn't think that I would hold back..lol. If you've been reading these posts for a while, you know me better than that. I wanted to create this list to educate and help people that continually find that they can't keep a relationship together. What they will find in most cases is that it's not necessarily the relationship that needs work, but themselves. We create our own drama and it's time we own up to it....
Thanks for reading =)
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
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Thanks for reading =)
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
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