Have you ever found yourself struggling to rekindle the spark and excitement in your relationship? Ever just found yourself taking one of those long stares at your boyfriend and thinking, "He's soo boring!"
Ever felt that your "Prince Charming" turned out to be a old man in a Hot Body?
Well, if you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, the chances are high that you are getting bored with your relationship.
If this sounds like you, I've got good news and I've got bad news. The good news is you are not alone, as many women grow tired of the men in their lives for one reason or the other. The bad news is that your boyfriend may have to start looking for a new girlfriend if you already doing one of these 5 things.
Ever felt that your "Prince Charming" turned out to be a old man in a Hot Body?
Well, if you answered "Yes" to any of these questions, the chances are high that you are getting bored with your relationship.
If this sounds like you, I've got good news and I've got bad news. The good news is you are not alone, as many women grow tired of the men in their lives for one reason or the other. The bad news is that your boyfriend may have to start looking for a new girlfriend if you already doing one of these 5 things.
Sign #1 You Start Meeting New People
Now nothing breaks up the monotony of a boring relationship like bringing new people into your life. You know what I'm talking about, it's like everyone's conversation is so much more interesting than the babble your boyfriend keeps recycling day in and day out.
You're literally ready to rip your ears off and airmail them to Alaska just so you don't have to hear one more word about his (Fill In the Blank).
You're bored and the last thing you want to do is spend another year reliving the same predictable routine over and over again. So you start to meet new people.
Of course it's starts out innocent at first, a little flirt here and little text there..no biggie right? Wrong! The more time you spend connecting with people outside of your relationship, the farther away you are getting from your boyfriend.
Now this is fine if your ready to leave, but if you're not, you may want to spend some telling him how you feel about things rather than getting comfy cozy with Mr. Dash & Daring.
You're literally ready to rip your ears off and airmail them to Alaska just so you don't have to hear one more word about his (Fill In the Blank).
You're bored and the last thing you want to do is spend another year reliving the same predictable routine over and over again. So you start to meet new people.
Of course it's starts out innocent at first, a little flirt here and little text there..no biggie right? Wrong! The more time you spend connecting with people outside of your relationship, the farther away you are getting from your boyfriend.
Now this is fine if your ready to leave, but if you're not, you may want to spend some telling him how you feel about things rather than getting comfy cozy with Mr. Dash & Daring.
Sign #2 You Live For A Night Out With Your Friends
Thank God, It's Friday! Tonight you get to go out with the girls and toss back margaritas until the waiter starts to look like Johnny Depp and Denzel Washington all rolled into one..lol
But do you remember a time when Friday night, used to be the night that you and your boyfriend would stay up all night and watch stupid movies? Remember the time, when you and your boyfriend lived for the weekends and would stay in bed all Saturday living off nothing but hot passionate sex?
Remember that? Whatever happened to those days? I'll tell you what happened, you both got comfortable and things got boring! That's what happens after the newness of a relationship wears off, the jokes just aren't as funny and frankly your tired of seeing his spongebob boxers every freakin weekend. You're over it.
So what's a girl to do in a situation such as this? Hang out with her friends all night and drink the pain away? Or, woman up and tell your man that he needs to put some serious wood in the fire before it burns out ;)
But do you remember a time when Friday night, used to be the night that you and your boyfriend would stay up all night and watch stupid movies? Remember the time, when you and your boyfriend lived for the weekends and would stay in bed all Saturday living off nothing but hot passionate sex?
Remember that? Whatever happened to those days? I'll tell you what happened, you both got comfortable and things got boring! That's what happens after the newness of a relationship wears off, the jokes just aren't as funny and frankly your tired of seeing his spongebob boxers every freakin weekend. You're over it.
So what's a girl to do in a situation such as this? Hang out with her friends all night and drink the pain away? Or, woman up and tell your man that he needs to put some serious wood in the fire before it burns out ;)
Sign #3 You Don't Even Try To Make Plans Anymore
One of the most enjoyable features of a relationship(yes, I said features) is that you have someone to plan trips and reach goals with. It's like having a best friend that not only laughs at your jokes but makes your knees weak at the same time.
Have you ever had a friend like that? Or boyfriend for that matter? Ever had a man that you wanted to travel the world with, try new foods with or build a house with? Well, if you're in a relationship, then you're boyfriend probably was that man at one time.
But now he's "Mr. Dullsville" and all he wants to do is (Fill In The Blank). So you stop asking him to go out. You stop trying to plan trips with him. You stop thinking of a future with him because you already know nothing will change.
Or do you? Well, if you're ready to move on then it doesn't matter, but if you still care... there may be a slim chance at turning this boat around. Do you want to know how?
Okay, I'll tell you...But I'm sure you already know what I'm going to say. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you miss being able to plan and look forward to experiencing new things with him. Let him know that his routine or boring way of doing things is draining your passion. Let him know that there are many things you wish to experience together, but you can't do them if all he does is (Fill In The Blank).
Let this be an open conversation of understanding, but ultimately an expression of how you feel and would like things to change. If he cares about the relationship, he will listen and get his ass up off the damn couch..lol
Have you ever had a friend like that? Or boyfriend for that matter? Ever had a man that you wanted to travel the world with, try new foods with or build a house with? Well, if you're in a relationship, then you're boyfriend probably was that man at one time.
But now he's "Mr. Dullsville" and all he wants to do is (Fill In The Blank). So you stop asking him to go out. You stop trying to plan trips with him. You stop thinking of a future with him because you already know nothing will change.
Or do you? Well, if you're ready to move on then it doesn't matter, but if you still care... there may be a slim chance at turning this boat around. Do you want to know how?
Okay, I'll tell you...But I'm sure you already know what I'm going to say. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you miss being able to plan and look forward to experiencing new things with him. Let him know that his routine or boring way of doing things is draining your passion. Let him know that there are many things you wish to experience together, but you can't do them if all he does is (Fill In The Blank).
Let this be an open conversation of understanding, but ultimately an expression of how you feel and would like things to change. If he cares about the relationship, he will listen and get his ass up off the damn couch..lol
Sign #4 You Could Care Less If He Doesn't Call Tonight
Gone are the days when you couldn't sleep until you heard his voice wish you a peaceful sleep.
These days, you look forward to sleep just so you don't have to hear his incessant rants about (Fill In The Blank). There's nothing more blissful..more serene than silence and the comfort in knowing that for a few hours you can dream of the exciting relationship you are not in.
Now if it's gotten to this point, I have to ask you. How the hell did you make it this far? You must have a serious Love Jones for this one..lol He must have his hooks in deep for you to stick around this long and be bored out of your skull.
But that's how it goes with matters of the heart sometimes... We stick around in relationships that aren't always the brightest, but when they shine they blow our freakin socks off! Can I get a witness!
You know what I'm talking about, but the sad thing about all of this is you're still left with the burning question...How did I end up here? Lying in bed thankful that I don't have to hear my boyfriend's voice.
If you're seeing this sign, I'm going to go ahead and say it, It's a saaddd day in Whoville.
When you get to this point, you already have one foot out the door and may be getting into somethings that wouldn't be classified as "In a committed relationship". If things don't turn around soon, the boring guy you're sleeping next to will wake up single and be scratching his head trying to figure out how he missed the boat.
Unless, you tell him that you are unhappy in your relationship and make the effort to talk things out.
These days, you look forward to sleep just so you don't have to hear his incessant rants about (Fill In The Blank). There's nothing more blissful..more serene than silence and the comfort in knowing that for a few hours you can dream of the exciting relationship you are not in.
Now if it's gotten to this point, I have to ask you. How the hell did you make it this far? You must have a serious Love Jones for this one..lol He must have his hooks in deep for you to stick around this long and be bored out of your skull.
But that's how it goes with matters of the heart sometimes... We stick around in relationships that aren't always the brightest, but when they shine they blow our freakin socks off! Can I get a witness!
You know what I'm talking about, but the sad thing about all of this is you're still left with the burning question...How did I end up here? Lying in bed thankful that I don't have to hear my boyfriend's voice.
If you're seeing this sign, I'm going to go ahead and say it, It's a saaddd day in Whoville.
When you get to this point, you already have one foot out the door and may be getting into somethings that wouldn't be classified as "In a committed relationship". If things don't turn around soon, the boring guy you're sleeping next to will wake up single and be scratching his head trying to figure out how he missed the boat.
Unless, you tell him that you are unhappy in your relationship and make the effort to talk things out.
Sign #5 You Want The Sex To Just Be Over Already
Now sex as we all know is one of the most intimate connections we can make with the ones we care about most. It can allow us to express with our bodies what are mouths can not.
Sex or "Love-making", whatever you're calling it these days, is the intense sharing of pleasure that brings a climatic expression of our affection for one another. This act in itself is one fueled by an emotional connection and/or just the pure lust of wanting to devour your boyfriend's hot bod.
But..if you're at the point when the sex isn't desirable and you just want it to end, it won't be long before you or your boyfriend will sleeping next to someone else. And at that point, you might as well pack it up and go build another castle in the sand.
If this is where you find your mind drifting every time your boring boyfriend pulls down your panties, it's well past time to reset or break it off completely.
You don't want this relationship to go down in the books as the one you "cheated on", it's better to leave with dignity.
Or...yes there is an "Oar" for your lifeboat in this one if you want it..lol You can finally have that heart to heart you been avoiding all this time thinking that things will finally turn around on their own.
Sex or "Love-making", whatever you're calling it these days, is the intense sharing of pleasure that brings a climatic expression of our affection for one another. This act in itself is one fueled by an emotional connection and/or just the pure lust of wanting to devour your boyfriend's hot bod.
But..if you're at the point when the sex isn't desirable and you just want it to end, it won't be long before you or your boyfriend will sleeping next to someone else. And at that point, you might as well pack it up and go build another castle in the sand.
If this is where you find your mind drifting every time your boring boyfriend pulls down your panties, it's well past time to reset or break it off completely.
You don't want this relationship to go down in the books as the one you "cheated on", it's better to leave with dignity.
Or...yes there is an "Oar" for your lifeboat in this one if you want it..lol You can finally have that heart to heart you been avoiding all this time thinking that things will finally turn around on their own.
So, Have You Noticed Any Of These Signs In Your Relationship?
Does any of this look familiar? Have you found yourself becoming bored with your relationship, but not taking any action to improve it? Or maybe you've noticed other signs that I haven't mentioned?
Let me know in the comments below and if you want, we can find a solution together to put that spark and excitement back in your love life ^_^
Until The Next Time
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
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Let me know in the comments below and if you want, we can find a solution together to put that spark and excitement back in your love life ^_^
Until The Next Time
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
If you enjoyed reading this week's BYT insight, you would love the BYT Newsletter, where every week you get additional information to go along with each discussion. You can sign up for it by clicking here.
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