Have you ever wondered where you measure up in the realm of being a "good" girlfriend? Ever been curious if you have what it takes to stand out from the average woman your man of interest encounters everyday?
Well, I've put together 10 Questions to help you make that determination and get a clearer picture of where you fit in the land of the "ideal" girlfriend. Answer these questions honestly, to get the truest answers you seek. Are you ready? Let's begin...
Well, I've put together 10 Questions to help you make that determination and get a clearer picture of where you fit in the land of the "ideal" girlfriend. Answer these questions honestly, to get the truest answers you seek. Are you ready? Let's begin...
Q1- What Do You Bring To The Relationship?
Being part of a great relationship is about adding value to the union. It's about bringing something to the table that is undeniably satisfying and unique to you.
Now this special "something" should not be a material possession, but more along the lines of an emotional value or connection.
Why? Because anyone has the capacity to gain worldly possessions, but matters of the heart are priceless. So, what do you bring to the relationship?
Now this special "something" should not be a material possession, but more along the lines of an emotional value or connection.
Why? Because anyone has the capacity to gain worldly possessions, but matters of the heart are priceless. So, what do you bring to the relationship?
Q2- Can You Handle A Disagreement Without Spazzing Out?
Now you and I both know there's nothing worse than trying to be in a relationship with someone who freaks out over every little thing.
Being in a relationship with someone like that causes people to walk on egg shells because they're always wondering "Will they flip out if I say this or do that".
So, are you someone that can handle a disagreement without flipping out?
Being in a relationship with someone like that causes people to walk on egg shells because they're always wondering "Will they flip out if I say this or do that".
So, are you someone that can handle a disagreement without flipping out?
Q3- Do You Express Your Emotions In A Healthy Way?
We all get upset and sometimes we really get upset, but it's how we handle these emotions that makes all the difference.
If you were to date someone that shutdown every time you tried to talk about something important, would you remain in the relationship or leave? If you were to date someone that became aggressive violent when things didn't go their way would you stick around? Probably not.
So, are you someone that can express their emotions in an effective and healthy way?
If you were to date someone that shutdown every time you tried to talk about something important, would you remain in the relationship or leave? If you were to date someone that became aggressive violent when things didn't go their way would you stick around? Probably not.
So, are you someone that can express their emotions in an effective and healthy way?
Q4- Are You Adventurous In The Bedroom?
Sex with someone you're in a relationship with can be one of the perks of commitment, but this can also be pure hell if your partner is borrriinnggg..lol
Being adventurous in the bedroom doesn't mean you have to swing from the rafters, but it does mean that you are open to at least having a conversation if not doing things that may be a little taboo.
You know the basics like oral sex, anal play, dildos, vibrators and the occasional whip cream and handcuffs.
If that last line sounds like a horror movie, you might not be as adventurous as you think.
Being adventurous in the bedroom doesn't mean you have to swing from the rafters, but it does mean that you are open to at least having a conversation if not doing things that may be a little taboo.
You know the basics like oral sex, anal play, dildos, vibrators and the occasional whip cream and handcuffs.
If that last line sounds like a horror movie, you might not be as adventurous as you think.
Q5- Can You Support Yourself?
Now, nothings wrong with helping someone in a relationship, but it's always better if they can support themselves when their "boyfriend" is not around.
I don't know of anyone that would ask someone who didn't have a car for a ride. I also don't know of anyone who would ask to borrow $5 from someone who doesn't have an income either.
So, can you support yourself?
I don't know of anyone that would ask someone who didn't have a car for a ride. I also don't know of anyone who would ask to borrow $5 from someone who doesn't have an income either.
So, can you support yourself?
Q6- Do You Make Your Own Decisions?
One of the best things about a relationship is having someone to bounce ideas off of. You know that back and forth troubleshooting when a tough decision needs to be made.
But sometimes, as individuals, we must make our own decisions and be prepared to live with the consequences of the decisions we make. This is an easy task for most, but for some the idea of deciding paper or plastic is impossible to conceive without asking for someone else's opinion.
Hopefully this doesn't describe you, but I'll ask anyway... Do you make your own decisions?
But sometimes, as individuals, we must make our own decisions and be prepared to live with the consequences of the decisions we make. This is an easy task for most, but for some the idea of deciding paper or plastic is impossible to conceive without asking for someone else's opinion.
Hopefully this doesn't describe you, but I'll ask anyway... Do you make your own decisions?
Q7- Are You Part Of The Problem Or The Solution?
"No man is an island." Have you ever heard that expression before? If you haven't, it simply means that we all need the help of others to get where we're going.
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But we what we don't need is someone that weighs us down or just totally derails us from crossing the finish line. We look for the problem solver to help use find or develop the solution. Not people that add more gasoline to the fire we're trying to put out.
So, are you part of the solution or part of the problem?
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But we what we don't need is someone that weighs us down or just totally derails us from crossing the finish line. We look for the problem solver to help use find or develop the solution. Not people that add more gasoline to the fire we're trying to put out.
So, are you part of the solution or part of the problem?
Q8- If Your Boyfriend Was Injured, Would You Be There For Him?
If you're Mr. Charming lost his looks or leg for that matter, would you still stand by his side?
Being there for someone in their darkest hour can do wonders for the rapport in your relationship.
It's the moments when people are in their greatest agony that you have the power to speed up or impede their recovery.
So, with that said, Would you be the light in his dark? Or leave him to find someone new?
Being there for someone in their darkest hour can do wonders for the rapport in your relationship.
It's the moments when people are in their greatest agony that you have the power to speed up or impede their recovery.
So, with that said, Would you be the light in his dark? Or leave him to find someone new?
Q9- Can You Remain Faithful In A Relationship?
This should be a yes and need no further explanation. If it's not an automatic yes, then we have got some serious work todo.
Q10- Do You Believe In Yourself?
Low Self-Esteem is a buzzkill. It's a worm on a wet bench, a brick through the glass house. Low Self-Esteem can not only cripple a person, but their relationships as well. .
People with low self-esteem tend to settle quicker than others because they don't want to make waves. They want to go along with the flow and these are also the people more likely to stay in a relationship they don't want.
Do you believe in yourself? Or are you a work in-progress?
People with low self-esteem tend to settle quicker than others because they don't want to make waves. They want to go along with the flow and these are also the people more likely to stay in a relationship they don't want.
Do you believe in yourself? Or are you a work in-progress?
Well..How Did You Do?
Did you get more "Yes's" than No's"? Or did the "No's" dominate your entire quiz?
The reason I created this little questionnaire, is to provide you with a tool to use and evaluate your own worth in your relationships.
If you answered these questions honestly, you should have a clear picture in your head of just how wonderful or "not so wonderful" of a girlfriend you are. And don't worry, if you didn't get a lot of yes's we will improve that over time, but for now it's a start.
Today, you have a place of reference, you know what areas need work and which ones don't. So let me know in the comments below how you did and we can go from there. Also, if you want to discuss your findings more privately, you can contact me >here<.
Until Next Time, Stay Beautiful
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
If you liked what you read and want to know more about relationships, sign up for the BYT newsletter and get additional information, plus a Free 5 Day E-Course on how to improve the communication in your relationships.
The reason I created this little questionnaire, is to provide you with a tool to use and evaluate your own worth in your relationships.
If you answered these questions honestly, you should have a clear picture in your head of just how wonderful or "not so wonderful" of a girlfriend you are. And don't worry, if you didn't get a lot of yes's we will improve that over time, but for now it's a start.
Today, you have a place of reference, you know what areas need work and which ones don't. So let me know in the comments below how you did and we can go from there. Also, if you want to discuss your findings more privately, you can contact me >here<.
Until Next Time, Stay Beautiful
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
If you liked what you read and want to know more about relationships, sign up for the BYT newsletter and get additional information, plus a Free 5 Day E-Course on how to improve the communication in your relationships.
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