Are You In A Growing Relationship?

  When it comes to relationships, you can find yourself in one of three positions: The Beginning, The Middle Or The End.  Now, depending on the health of your relationship, the beginning and the middle are where you want to be, but be aware that the end can jump into the fray at anytime.  The ending is more or less an indication that something is going or has gone horribly wrong with the direction of your relationship.

  However, no matter where you are in your relationship, the only thing that will take you and the babe from one phase to the next is growth.  So, I ask you, is your relationship growing?  Let's find out...

Positive Vs. Negative Growth

  There are several ways to determine if your relationship growth is on an upward swing or a negative spiral and below I've listed a few of the most common within each category.  If your relationship is undergoing a positive growth it will be on the left and if it's crashing fast, it will be on the right.  Ready?

Positive Growth

• You and the babe are making plans for the future.  This can be trips, dates, thinking of moving in together or buying a pet..etc
• You share secrets about each other that no one else knows.  Sounds like the trust is growing eh;)
• You talk about personal events within your family that are normally kept hush-hush
• You argue over changes to your existing home or apartment..Maybe he or she wants to buy a new couch or mattress
• You begin to experience new sensations together.  You explore each others deeper fantasies, pleasures and desires together.
• You have small arguments over little things that put tension in your relationship, but ultimately brings you closer together.  
  

Negative Growth

• The amount of tears and frustration increase, as your arguments become more intense and unsavory.
  
• You stop planning trips together and begin to focus on thinking of ways to spend time apart from each other
• You begin to keep secrets from the babe and don't really care to learn or hear anything else about them.
• You start spending more time sharing your fantasies with others and spend less time time satisfying primal urges with the babe.
• You stop making the effort to participate in those squabble that help you to gain understanding about Babe's way of thinking.
• You begin to speak harshly about the babe to others and laugh at their misfortunes.

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Now, Where's Your Relationship Headed?

So looking at the examples above, is your relationship growing or has it become stagnant?  Are you just going through the motions with no end in sight or is there indication of positive or negative growth?  

  Now, nothing is wrong if you're maintaining in a good place, as long as you two can make small leaps forward when the timing is right.  No need to run down to aisle just because you have become comfortable, utilize the downtime to learn more about each other.  Become more in tune, do a lot of talking to find out what each other's plans are for the relationship.

  One of you may even be thinking marriage, while the other is just thinking about introducing you to the family.  Are you okay with that?

  Are you content realizing that your relationship has matured to the point that no additional leaves will grow?  This is something to consider, unless you don't mind being surprised to find out that Babe's future doesn't have you in the plans. 

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Where To Go From Here?

  Well, now that you have a better idea of the growth in your relationship, you have to decide if you're willing to put even more work in to get to the next level.  Or not..lol  It's really a question of what you genuinely want at this point.  Do you want a deeper connection with the Babe? Are you comfortable "just" maintaining? Or... have things run their course?

  Feel free to let me know in the comments below and don't forget that you can ask any relationship question at anytime in the contact section of the site.  
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