I mean it's not like you're going to die if you care about someone. "Catching Feelings" is just another way of saying that you're thinking about someone or are starting to develop an emotional connection.
And what's so wrong with that? In my opinion, nothing is wrong with it, in fact it's normal behavior.
There's no way, we can exist in this world without getting close to one or more people, it's bound to happen.
So because of this simple truth, I'm going to shutdown 5 Reasons people often give for their fear of "Catching Feelings". Are you ready? Let's go...
And what's so wrong with that? In my opinion, nothing is wrong with it, in fact it's normal behavior.
There's no way, we can exist in this world without getting close to one or more people, it's bound to happen.
So because of this simple truth, I'm going to shutdown 5 Reasons people often give for their fear of "Catching Feelings". Are you ready? Let's go...
What If He Doesn't Like Me Back?
Okay and? So what?
There's no way that you can even think of having a happy relationship if you're going to start it off afraid of exposing your feelings. You're not an Ice Queen, everyone knows you have a heart and most importantly, he knows you have a heart.
When people spend time together doing things..intimate things or just spending time together..relationships form. It's just how life works.
You can't deny it, you'd be better off teaching a hyena to eat with a fork..lol
And so what if the guy you like doesn't like you back? We're only on this earth for a moment, do you want to live your life in the safety of being alone where no one can hurt you? Or do you want to take a chance and live your life to the fullest?
It's not like you asked him to marry you in front of your whole family..you're just letting another human being know that you care about them. Don't become a prisoner of your own mind.
There's no way that you can even think of having a happy relationship if you're going to start it off afraid of exposing your feelings. You're not an Ice Queen, everyone knows you have a heart and most importantly, he knows you have a heart.
When people spend time together doing things..intimate things or just spending time together..relationships form. It's just how life works.
You can't deny it, you'd be better off teaching a hyena to eat with a fork..lol
And so what if the guy you like doesn't like you back? We're only on this earth for a moment, do you want to live your life in the safety of being alone where no one can hurt you? Or do you want to take a chance and live your life to the fullest?
It's not like you asked him to marry you in front of your whole family..you're just letting another human being know that you care about them. Don't become a prisoner of your own mind.
"I Don't Want To Be Hurt Again"
Hell, nobody wants to be hurt, it's not just you.
But, in this little thing we call love and relationships, people do get hurt...sometimes. The only way that you can be sure you'll never be hurt again is to block out the world and never connect with anyone.
Now who wants to live like that? I know I don't and I don't think you want that either.
So what do we do? Well, we start by understanding that people need other people. People need to feel appreciated respected and loved. If we didn't we'd be left in the wild like reptiles without families to nurture our well-being.
You signed up for this journey since day one and it will not stop until the end of time. Plus, there's worse things to fear in the world like getting stung by a wasp..lol Or waking up with your nose on the side of your face.
But, in this little thing we call love and relationships, people do get hurt...sometimes. The only way that you can be sure you'll never be hurt again is to block out the world and never connect with anyone.
Now who wants to live like that? I know I don't and I don't think you want that either.
So what do we do? Well, we start by understanding that people need other people. People need to feel appreciated respected and loved. If we didn't we'd be left in the wild like reptiles without families to nurture our well-being.
You signed up for this journey since day one and it will not stop until the end of time. Plus, there's worse things to fear in the world like getting stung by a wasp..lol Or waking up with your nose on the side of your face.
"If He Knows I Like Him, He'll Start Acting Different"
He may act different if he knows you like him. Let's think about that for a second. Is he going to dye his hair gray and start a cult in Waco Texas?
I don't think so. When people find out that you like them, they either do one of two things. They either pull you closer or pull away. That's it.
If he pulls away, then you're just finding out that this wasn't meant to be. But, if he pulls you closer then maybe there's a chance that you can actually have a relationship with this guy.
So I think the real question is, how are you going to act once he finds out you like him? Hmm..
I don't think so. When people find out that you like them, they either do one of two things. They either pull you closer or pull away. That's it.
If he pulls away, then you're just finding out that this wasn't meant to be. But, if he pulls you closer then maybe there's a chance that you can actually have a relationship with this guy.
So I think the real question is, how are you going to act once he finds out you like him? Hmm..
"I Get Too Attached Too People Quickly"
Now when you say attached, what do you mean? Do you sit at home burning a candle and obsess over their favorite color? Or are you just thinking about them with great intrigue?
I don't know if you know this, but people do think about other people they like or love. The only way I would have the slightest concern about you becoming attached to someone is if you are not able to cope with the stress of this emotion.
There are moments in life when relationships are the last thing we need, as they can bring a whole new level of stress into our already hectic lives.
Instead of thinking for one, we have to think for two. Instead of planning for one, we have to plan for two. Everything multiplies and so on and so forth.
If you know that you're not in a good place in life right now to handle such stress, my question is, Why are you spending so much time with this guy? Maybe a puppy should be your best friend right now..but that's just my opinion.
I don't know if you know this, but people do think about other people they like or love. The only way I would have the slightest concern about you becoming attached to someone is if you are not able to cope with the stress of this emotion.
There are moments in life when relationships are the last thing we need, as they can bring a whole new level of stress into our already hectic lives.
Instead of thinking for one, we have to think for two. Instead of planning for one, we have to plan for two. Everything multiplies and so on and so forth.
If you know that you're not in a good place in life right now to handle such stress, my question is, Why are you spending so much time with this guy? Maybe a puppy should be your best friend right now..but that's just my opinion.
"I Don't Want Him To Think I'm Crazy"
Let me tell you something, Everybody is crazy..lol
People are off their freaking meds, there are millions of people walking around with undocumented mental health issues. It just so happens that maybe you're a little more in tune with life and have a unique grasp on reality.
Worrying about whether someone thinks you're crazy is a waste of your time. Because look at it this way, he's going to think you're crazy anyway, whether it's because you get on him about the game or whatever you're first argument is about.
Hell, you may even think he's crazy..lol And to tell you the truth, he just might be.
But honestly, nothing about you "Catching Feelings" for someone you care about is crazy, in fact, it would be crazy not to..lol Unless you're a psychopath o_O. And that's a totally different can of paint.
Stay Drama Free
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
People are off their freaking meds, there are millions of people walking around with undocumented mental health issues. It just so happens that maybe you're a little more in tune with life and have a unique grasp on reality.
Worrying about whether someone thinks you're crazy is a waste of your time. Because look at it this way, he's going to think you're crazy anyway, whether it's because you get on him about the game or whatever you're first argument is about.
Hell, you may even think he's crazy..lol And to tell you the truth, he just might be.
But honestly, nothing about you "Catching Feelings" for someone you care about is crazy, in fact, it would be crazy not to..lol Unless you're a psychopath o_O. And that's a totally different can of paint.
Stay Drama Free
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)