When it comes to having scary things happen in your relationship, nothing can be as wild as your first argument.
The first argument, notably makes it official that you are truly in a relationship because the emotions are high and you're upset. This is a normal occurrence in the life of any relationship worth fighting for, as I'm sure many of you now reading are aware.
But, how do you actually survive the first argument in your relationship? That's what tonight's relationship insight is all about, "How To Survive Your First Fight In A New Relationship" Ready?
The first argument, notably makes it official that you are truly in a relationship because the emotions are high and you're upset. This is a normal occurrence in the life of any relationship worth fighting for, as I'm sure many of you now reading are aware.
But, how do you actually survive the first argument in your relationship? That's what tonight's relationship insight is all about, "How To Survive Your First Fight In A New Relationship" Ready?
Tip #1 Realize It's Not The End Of The World

Just because you had a difference of opinion, it doesn't mean the world is over. People have disagreements all of the time, so why should your relationship be any different?
When you have that first argument, it can be a total haymaker because out of nowhere, your peaceful serenity is rocked by reality. Yes, reality has a way of creeping in when we least expect it, but it's definitely nothing to be afraid of.
As you grow and build in your relationship, you can expect many more moments like this to follow, but with each difference of opinion you become stronger. Wiser. And slowly, you begin to learn more about the person you've decided to take on your life's journey.
When you have that first argument, it can be a total haymaker because out of nowhere, your peaceful serenity is rocked by reality. Yes, reality has a way of creeping in when we least expect it, but it's definitely nothing to be afraid of.
As you grow and build in your relationship, you can expect many more moments like this to follow, but with each difference of opinion you become stronger. Wiser. And slowly, you begin to learn more about the person you've decided to take on your life's journey.
Tip #2 Refrain From Jumping To Conclusions

When the tempers are high and emotions are going off like fireworks, it can be a confusing and scary time. This is all the more reason to maintain rationale and refrain from making any impulsive decisions.
Your upset and that's understandable, but if it wasn't a deal breaker, pump your brakes and regroup. Nobody's perfect and shit happens..lol But think about it...Would you be this upset if you didn't care?
When two people just begin a new relationship, they are trying to figure each other out. In doing this, you'll see things you like and things you don't like. Good moments will happen and bad moments will happen.
Relationships aren't all peaches in cream like you see in the movies. Relationships are about compromise, problem-solving and companionship. So the idea of going out with your friends and hooking up with some hot guy or girl isn't going to do anything to take the sting away. It will just make things more stressful.
Maybe you can use this time to see if you're even ready for a real relationship...
"Can't live in a glass house and expect to have a relationship worth fighting for."
Your upset and that's understandable, but if it wasn't a deal breaker, pump your brakes and regroup. Nobody's perfect and shit happens..lol But think about it...Would you be this upset if you didn't care?
When two people just begin a new relationship, they are trying to figure each other out. In doing this, you'll see things you like and things you don't like. Good moments will happen and bad moments will happen.
Relationships aren't all peaches in cream like you see in the movies. Relationships are about compromise, problem-solving and companionship. So the idea of going out with your friends and hooking up with some hot guy or girl isn't going to do anything to take the sting away. It will just make things more stressful.
Maybe you can use this time to see if you're even ready for a real relationship...
"Can't live in a glass house and expect to have a relationship worth fighting for."
Tip #3 Use This As A Learning Moment

Hopefully by now you two have regained your composure and are now able to begin talking through your issues like "real couples" do. No yelling, no throwing dinner plates, just adult conversation and a willingness to explore.
"What went wrong? What did I do? How would I have liked him to handle the situation? How can we make sure this never happens again?"
As, I've said before communication is one of the pillars in your relationship. Without communication and understanding on both sides, it won't last. Strong communication at this time is something that can do wonder for your relationship since both of you are rather tender and emotional.
Soft words and apologies go around the room like Kleenex during flu season. If you've made it to this point, there's hope for your relationship and you now realize it's not the end of the world.
"What went wrong? What did I do? How would I have liked him to handle the situation? How can we make sure this never happens again?"
As, I've said before communication is one of the pillars in your relationship. Without communication and understanding on both sides, it won't last. Strong communication at this time is something that can do wonder for your relationship since both of you are rather tender and emotional.
Soft words and apologies go around the room like Kleenex during flu season. If you've made it to this point, there's hope for your relationship and you now realize it's not the end of the world.
Tip #4 Makeup And Try Again

Ah yes, the Make-Up and even better the "Make-Up Sex".
That's one of the bonuses of your first argument. Both of you desperately trying to convince the other that you didn't mean it, gushing with passion and sincerity in your words.
"Oh baby it was might fault". "No Babe, it was mine and I am sorry."
You know what I'm talking about..lol And then it starts... One long embrace becomes one of the wettest kisses you'll ever have ...among other things..lol
Then when you're lying there naked..drained and entwined in each other's arms, you'll think, Why did we wait so long to have our first argument" ^_^
That's one of the bonuses of your first argument. Both of you desperately trying to convince the other that you didn't mean it, gushing with passion and sincerity in your words.
"Oh baby it was might fault". "No Babe, it was mine and I am sorry."
You know what I'm talking about..lol And then it starts... One long embrace becomes one of the wettest kisses you'll ever have ...among other things..lol
Then when you're lying there naked..drained and entwined in each other's arms, you'll think, Why did we wait so long to have our first argument" ^_^
Well, What Do You Think?
Do you think you'll survive your first argument if you follow these tips? Do you think you can keep your cool long enough to find out what's really going on? Are you ready for that "Make Up Sex" you hear so much about? Let me know in the comments below ^_^
If you enjoyed reading this, share it with other new couples or a few friends that need a reminder.
Until next time....
Stay Drama-Free
Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
If you enjoyed reading this, share it with other new couples or a few friends that need a reminder.
Until next time....
Stay Drama-Free
Jamaal(LoverOfLife)