You know there's nothing worse than a woman prioritizing a man's needs when she's second, if not third on his list of importance.
So why do so many women do it? Drive miles to see a man who hasn't even visited her home once? Spend her rent money on fixing his motorcycle when he's just going to use it to go hang with friends?
Seems kind of lopsided doesn't it? I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want a relationship with someone that doesn't truly understand the concept of give and take. Allow me to explain...
So why do so many women do it? Drive miles to see a man who hasn't even visited her home once? Spend her rent money on fixing his motorcycle when he's just going to use it to go hang with friends?
Seems kind of lopsided doesn't it? I don't know about you, but I wouldn't want a relationship with someone that doesn't truly understand the concept of give and take. Allow me to explain...
For Relationships To Work They Require...
Two people working together to achieve a common goal of happiness, companionship and whatever their hearts mutually desire.
A relationship serving only one partner's needs can leave the other feeling "used", "inadequate" or any number of many unpleasant emotions.
I understand the need to be "wanted" or "desired", but how much are you willing to trade for it? Are you willing to sacrifice your own happiness just to say "I'm in a relationship"? Are you willing to put all of your time and energy into someone that will drink from any cup that's handed to them?
Wouldn't you rather be with someone that puts at least half, in not all of that same energy and desire back into the reservoir? You see..
A relationship serving only one partner's needs can leave the other feeling "used", "inadequate" or any number of many unpleasant emotions.
I understand the need to be "wanted" or "desired", but how much are you willing to trade for it? Are you willing to sacrifice your own happiness just to say "I'm in a relationship"? Are you willing to put all of your time and energy into someone that will drink from any cup that's handed to them?
Wouldn't you rather be with someone that puts at least half, in not all of that same energy and desire back into the reservoir? You see..
Relationships Are A Two-Way Street
It's a matter of give and take.
Meaning that not only one person is filling the cup while the other drinks, it's about taking turns so that each person is satisfied throughout the life of the relationship.
If you can drive 300 miles to see him, he should drive 300 to see you. If you can forego a weekend with the girls to go on his stupid fishing trip, he should be able to miss the football game and spend the day doing whatever is on your agenda.
It's that give and take that enables relationships to withstand the hands of time. Sure you can hop to a bench with one leg, but it's easier to walk with two feet. Do you agree?
Meaning that not only one person is filling the cup while the other drinks, it's about taking turns so that each person is satisfied throughout the life of the relationship.
If you can drive 300 miles to see him, he should drive 300 to see you. If you can forego a weekend with the girls to go on his stupid fishing trip, he should be able to miss the football game and spend the day doing whatever is on your agenda.
It's that give and take that enables relationships to withstand the hands of time. Sure you can hop to a bench with one leg, but it's easier to walk with two feet. Do you agree?
So Why Do So Many Women Chase After Selfish Men?
Well, as I said above, it's about needing to feel wanted or desired. Everybody wants to be a part of something, it's just that some people need it more than others.
For example, take a woman who wants a relationship with someone that's going to go the distance. She gives him her best at every turn, even goes out of her way to make him happy. All in the hopes that one day, he will reciprocate...but he never does.
I mean, he said all the right things and never yelled, so why didn't he put in the effort?
Well, that's because he never had to, she made it easy for him. She spoon fed him her affection from the start, setting the stage for it to be a relationship of receiving rather than one of reciprocation.
For example, take a woman who wants a relationship with someone that's going to go the distance. She gives him her best at every turn, even goes out of her way to make him happy. All in the hopes that one day, he will reciprocate...but he never does.
I mean, he said all the right things and never yelled, so why didn't he put in the effort?
Well, that's because he never had to, she made it easy for him. She spoon fed him her affection from the start, setting the stage for it to be a relationship of receiving rather than one of reciprocation.
What Should I Do If I'm In A One-Sided Relationship?
The short and easy answer is: End It Now
The long and twisted is to stop and talk about what you feel is lacking in your relationship. If you feel that "Babe" is dragging ass and not bringing anything to the table, let him know. If you feel that he should come to see you sometimes rather than you always driving to see him, let him know.
If he doesn't agree to your requests or at least make some effort to meet your needs, this guy isn't someone worth another second of your time.
There's too many people out there that would love to be in his shoes, but you're too stuck on this loser to see it.
But, the choice is yours. You can either continue to chase this goofball for the rest of your life or be caught by someone whose willing to meet you halfway.
The long and twisted is to stop and talk about what you feel is lacking in your relationship. If you feel that "Babe" is dragging ass and not bringing anything to the table, let him know. If you feel that he should come to see you sometimes rather than you always driving to see him, let him know.
If he doesn't agree to your requests or at least make some effort to meet your needs, this guy isn't someone worth another second of your time.
There's too many people out there that would love to be in his shoes, but you're too stuck on this loser to see it.
But, the choice is yours. You can either continue to chase this goofball for the rest of your life or be caught by someone whose willing to meet you halfway.
So What Do You Think?
Are relationships a 2-Way Street? Are they a working relationship of give and take or something else?
Let me know in the comments below and as always...
Stay Drama Free
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
Let me know in the comments below and as always...
Stay Drama Free
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
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