So you may have heard about or even experienced the joys of having hot, "No Strings Attached" sex with a true definition of man, but as we both know, it is not without a cost.
The reason is because Casual Sex is just casual sex, nothing more and nothing less than a temporary solution for the heart. Sleeping with someone doesn't mean they will start caring and blowing up your phone. It also doesn't mean all men want is sex either.
That's why right now, right here, I'm going to share with you the core Disadvantages of Casual Sex.
The reason is because Casual Sex is just casual sex, nothing more and nothing less than a temporary solution for the heart. Sleeping with someone doesn't mean they will start caring and blowing up your phone. It also doesn't mean all men want is sex either.
That's why right now, right here, I'm going to share with you the core Disadvantages of Casual Sex.
Great Sex Is Only A Temporary Solution For A Lonely Heart
I know, I know..No one wants to be lonely, but...
Casual sex with someone that you don't have an emotional connection with can actually do more harm than good in the long run. The reason for this is because it's only a temporary solution that will passify you for the moment, but not long-term.
Of course it feels good and everything, but what happens when he's sleeping with someone else and you're alone again? What happens when you want to tell him about your day and he's more interested in your ass than what you have to say?
How would that make you feel?
Probably not too good. This is one of the pitfalls that many women have fallen into when they try to turn a casual encounter into an real relationship..it just doesn't work. Why would he buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free? Or why would he choose to be in a relationship with you when he has 3 other women that he's having casual sex with?
You see where I'm going with this right? Casual sex has it's place, but it's not something you want to base your entire love life around.
Casual sex with someone that you don't have an emotional connection with can actually do more harm than good in the long run. The reason for this is because it's only a temporary solution that will passify you for the moment, but not long-term.
Of course it feels good and everything, but what happens when he's sleeping with someone else and you're alone again? What happens when you want to tell him about your day and he's more interested in your ass than what you have to say?
How would that make you feel?
Probably not too good. This is one of the pitfalls that many women have fallen into when they try to turn a casual encounter into an real relationship..it just doesn't work. Why would he buy the cow when he's getting the milk for free? Or why would he choose to be in a relationship with you when he has 3 other women that he's having casual sex with?
You see where I'm going with this right? Casual sex has it's place, but it's not something you want to base your entire love life around.
Just Because He's Sleeping With You Doesn't Mean He Cares..More
Let me tell you a little something about sex and men..lol
There are plenty of guys out there who you may already have encountered who will say and do the sweetest things...until they get what they want. They will be your best friend, your confidante, they will promise you the moon, but after they are over you..they're gone.
I'm sure you've heard the horror stories from some of your girlfriends about how she had this guy she used to hookup with that was just "Sooo, Amazing" and then he flipped the script on her.
Next thing you know, she's hating men all over again and crying her eyes out to you. It's a sad reality that too many people face, but you don't have to go down the same road.
If you're going to choose to have casual sex with this guy or that guy or even that girl, just remember that the moments you share are "in the moment" and after that you go back to reality.
There are plenty of guys out there who you may already have encountered who will say and do the sweetest things...until they get what they want. They will be your best friend, your confidante, they will promise you the moon, but after they are over you..they're gone.
I'm sure you've heard the horror stories from some of your girlfriends about how she had this guy she used to hookup with that was just "Sooo, Amazing" and then he flipped the script on her.
Next thing you know, she's hating men all over again and crying her eyes out to you. It's a sad reality that too many people face, but you don't have to go down the same road.
If you're going to choose to have casual sex with this guy or that guy or even that girl, just remember that the moments you share are "in the moment" and after that you go back to reality.
The Risk For STDS Is Greater
Nobody likes talking about the pink elephant in the room, but I'm going to..
When you have casual sex with multiple people or even just one person, the risk for infection is greater than being in a monogamous relationship. This is a fact that can rear its ugly head up from time to time and knock people flat on their ass.
Think about it. When you have sex with someone, you are exposing yourself to everyone they've ever had sex with and vice versa. So, if you have only had sex with 5 people and they've slept with 35, how many people do you think you're in the bed with?
Now don't be too alarmed, but take note. If you're going to play with these kinds of numbers, you want to make sure you're making the safest bet possible.
Plus, always use protection because while you may only be having freak nasty sex with him, he may be having casual sex with one or more equally nasty partners. Now, I don't know about you, but "Ain't nobody got time for that"..lol
When you have casual sex with multiple people or even just one person, the risk for infection is greater than being in a monogamous relationship. This is a fact that can rear its ugly head up from time to time and knock people flat on their ass.
Think about it. When you have sex with someone, you are exposing yourself to everyone they've ever had sex with and vice versa. So, if you have only had sex with 5 people and they've slept with 35, how many people do you think you're in the bed with?
Now don't be too alarmed, but take note. If you're going to play with these kinds of numbers, you want to make sure you're making the safest bet possible.
Plus, always use protection because while you may only be having freak nasty sex with him, he may be having casual sex with one or more equally nasty partners. Now, I don't know about you, but "Ain't nobody got time for that"..lol
You're Not A Cyborg, You Will Catch Feelings At Some Point
Try as you may, but if you've been having sex with him for several months you have feelings.
And that's perfectly normal and it's because you're human. You're not some cyborg walking around emotionless and operating solely on command prompts. You are a living, breathing woman ready to give and receive love and affection.
The fact that you've been having sex with him for this long is definitely a testament to your need to feel wanted and appreciated, but...this attention does not come without a price.
Sure, the sex is great, but this is in exchange for your sleep, your time and your feelings. I can't think of anyone besides porn stars that can consistently have sex with someone for months straight without catching feelings. Unless, you're the exception?
Besides, who do people normally devote months of their time and sleep to aside from their kids? Wanna guess?
I hope you said, "Their boyfriend or husband or something like that" because that would be the correct answer. Anything outside of that in this context would more than likely prove to be questionable, but I'm not here to judge..lol
Just know that giving that kind of time to someone who doesn't mean more to you than casual sex, not only cheats you out of a real relationship with someone, but cheats your "buddy" as well.
And that's perfectly normal and it's because you're human. You're not some cyborg walking around emotionless and operating solely on command prompts. You are a living, breathing woman ready to give and receive love and affection.
The fact that you've been having sex with him for this long is definitely a testament to your need to feel wanted and appreciated, but...this attention does not come without a price.
Sure, the sex is great, but this is in exchange for your sleep, your time and your feelings. I can't think of anyone besides porn stars that can consistently have sex with someone for months straight without catching feelings. Unless, you're the exception?
Besides, who do people normally devote months of their time and sleep to aside from their kids? Wanna guess?
I hope you said, "Their boyfriend or husband or something like that" because that would be the correct answer. Anything outside of that in this context would more than likely prove to be questionable, but I'm not here to judge..lol
Just know that giving that kind of time to someone who doesn't mean more to you than casual sex, not only cheats you out of a real relationship with someone, but cheats your "buddy" as well.
You're Not A Well Of Endless Love
I know you've got all the love in the world to give, but there is a bottom..
As you meet with various men and have casual encounters of all sorts, time can and will take a toll on your soul, body and mind. No one is immune to it, it's unavoidable.
You will end up with this thing they call "emotional baggage" or as I often refer to it as emotional damage.
This is the plethora of relationship problems that many failed marriages and relationships have faced including everything from trust issues to insecurities and low self-esteem.
The reason for this negative backlash of emotional distress is because not every person you choose to hookup will be "cool". Some men you will meet will be pieces of shit that the world could never make a big enough toilet to flush. I'm talking pure scum of the earth that I hope you never meet.
Now, through this process or journey of casual sex, you will also begin to develop a skewed perception of how "real relationships" are actually supposed to work.
You may even begin to say and think things like "All men want is sex" and "Why can't I find a good man that wants me for more than sex?".
Well, I've got a question for you. Do you think that there's a slim chance that you think all men want is sex because that's all you've allowed to happen in your last few interactions with men?
I mean, if all of my last few dealings with the opposite gender have just been sex, sex and sex I'm sure I would begin to think the same thing.
This is the reason it's important to understand the risks and/or disadvantages associated with Casual Sex before going in or in your case..Getting on;)
One more thing before I go: When you open the doors for casual sex and settle for less than you deserve which is a man that will treat you right and love you with all his might, you will face considerable difficulty believing that a man who does not want you for your body can be satisfied with craving attention from every other nonsexual aspect of you.
You know those things you have like hobbies and interests, passions and dreams, desires, aspirations..the things that make you unique. It'll probably knock your socks off when you strip down and he just wants to cuddle by the fire and hold you, only kissing you softly on the neck.
But if all you're used to is, "Getting naked and getting down to business" it's going to take some time and a lot of patience on his part to overcome and heal.
Stay Drama Free
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
As you meet with various men and have casual encounters of all sorts, time can and will take a toll on your soul, body and mind. No one is immune to it, it's unavoidable.
You will end up with this thing they call "emotional baggage" or as I often refer to it as emotional damage.
This is the plethora of relationship problems that many failed marriages and relationships have faced including everything from trust issues to insecurities and low self-esteem.
The reason for this negative backlash of emotional distress is because not every person you choose to hookup will be "cool". Some men you will meet will be pieces of shit that the world could never make a big enough toilet to flush. I'm talking pure scum of the earth that I hope you never meet.
Now, through this process or journey of casual sex, you will also begin to develop a skewed perception of how "real relationships" are actually supposed to work.
You may even begin to say and think things like "All men want is sex" and "Why can't I find a good man that wants me for more than sex?".
Well, I've got a question for you. Do you think that there's a slim chance that you think all men want is sex because that's all you've allowed to happen in your last few interactions with men?
I mean, if all of my last few dealings with the opposite gender have just been sex, sex and sex I'm sure I would begin to think the same thing.
This is the reason it's important to understand the risks and/or disadvantages associated with Casual Sex before going in or in your case..Getting on;)
One more thing before I go: When you open the doors for casual sex and settle for less than you deserve which is a man that will treat you right and love you with all his might, you will face considerable difficulty believing that a man who does not want you for your body can be satisfied with craving attention from every other nonsexual aspect of you.
You know those things you have like hobbies and interests, passions and dreams, desires, aspirations..the things that make you unique. It'll probably knock your socks off when you strip down and he just wants to cuddle by the fire and hold you, only kissing you softly on the neck.
But if all you're used to is, "Getting naked and getting down to business" it's going to take some time and a lot of patience on his part to overcome and heal.
Stay Drama Free
-Jamaal(LoverOfLife)
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