As we all know sometimes things get a little hot under the collar when we're trying to make a point with our significant others. Both sides say things they don't mean and well, "Things get blown way outta proportion!". So what are we really trying to say and how do we say it without Trippin?
Well, we could act like we're Superwoman or Iron Man and be like, "Fuck it", but we're more civil than that, so we'll rise above. Now to get you in the right mindset, let's start you off with a few examples you've probably encountered more than a time or two.
Well, we could act like we're Superwoman or Iron Man and be like, "Fuck it", but we're more civil than that, so we'll rise above. Now to get you in the right mindset, let's start you off with a few examples you've probably encountered more than a time or two.
Example One:
You've been lounging around in the house all day wearing nothing but your basketball shorts and a 3-day old shave. It's getting late in the evening and you're bored as hell. One of the boys hits you up and he's like, "You trying to roll with me to Trenton?". So you, bored as hell, respond back with "Shit man, pick me up in five, I'll be ready".
Meanwhile on the other-side of the couch your girl hears the conversation and gets pissed! She starts poppin off at the mouth on some ol' other and you're like "What the hell?". "What's your problem?", Why you trippin?
You're shaking your head wondering what the hell you've done wrong, but you can't even think over her "random ass rants". You really feel like just bouncing, but you call your boy back and tell him you'll have to catch him next time, since your girl is trippin.
Example Two:
You've been asking your "Boo" all week to take you out somewhere nice, somewhere exciting this weekend. You've done everything you can to get a rise out of him, but he's always got something else to do. You even go as far as to directly say, "Let's go out this weekend", after a nice hot romp on the kitchen counter. Still you get the same blank face and expressions of "I've got something else to do".
So, here it is now, Friday night and Cheryl, Tawanda and Jen call you up and say, "Hey girl, let's go to the club". Now you know you're boyfriend doesn't like you hanging with the girls, but he hasn't acted like he was interested in you all week. You've tried to drop hints and even broke him off some of that good and still nothing.
Well, as your getting ready to go out with the girls he asks, "Where you going all dressed up?". You could have responded back smart like, "Why you worried about it, you ain't taking me nowhere", but you rise above. You say, "I'm going with the girls to the club", in the softest sweetest voice you can possibly muster.
Next thing you know, you're uninterested boyfriend is now all in your face and you've got to call Cheryl back and tell her you can't go because your "Bae" is trippin!
You've been lounging around in the house all day wearing nothing but your basketball shorts and a 3-day old shave. It's getting late in the evening and you're bored as hell. One of the boys hits you up and he's like, "You trying to roll with me to Trenton?". So you, bored as hell, respond back with "Shit man, pick me up in five, I'll be ready".
Meanwhile on the other-side of the couch your girl hears the conversation and gets pissed! She starts poppin off at the mouth on some ol' other and you're like "What the hell?". "What's your problem?", Why you trippin?
You're shaking your head wondering what the hell you've done wrong, but you can't even think over her "random ass rants". You really feel like just bouncing, but you call your boy back and tell him you'll have to catch him next time, since your girl is trippin.
Example Two:
You've been asking your "Boo" all week to take you out somewhere nice, somewhere exciting this weekend. You've done everything you can to get a rise out of him, but he's always got something else to do. You even go as far as to directly say, "Let's go out this weekend", after a nice hot romp on the kitchen counter. Still you get the same blank face and expressions of "I've got something else to do".
So, here it is now, Friday night and Cheryl, Tawanda and Jen call you up and say, "Hey girl, let's go to the club". Now you know you're boyfriend doesn't like you hanging with the girls, but he hasn't acted like he was interested in you all week. You've tried to drop hints and even broke him off some of that good and still nothing.
Well, as your getting ready to go out with the girls he asks, "Where you going all dressed up?". You could have responded back smart like, "Why you worried about it, you ain't taking me nowhere", but you rise above. You say, "I'm going with the girls to the club", in the softest sweetest voice you can possibly muster.
Next thing you know, you're uninterested boyfriend is now all in your face and you've got to call Cheryl back and tell her you can't go because your "Bae" is trippin!
So what the hell just happened?
Well, there are a lot of ways to look at each situation, but I'll start with the fellas example first.
Okay, so while you were lounging around in your basketball shorts, you're girl was hoping that you would ask her to do something. Nothing special, just maybe spend a little time outside of the house at least acting like you we're interested in more than yourself. Yeah, I know you care about you're girl, but you see some women need a little extra reassurance to know that they are on your mind. You can tell them you "Like em" or "Love em" all day, but they still need it when they need it.
So the fact that when you're boy called and you had the strength of Hercules coursing through your veins, she snapped! She's thinking, "How is it that he isn't that excited about spending time with me?", but she won't come out and put her feelings on the line. She'll trip and rant to vent her frustrations which only pisses off you and her both.
Next time you're bored as hell just think she might be too. Surprise her with a random ass trip down the strip or cooking a nice meal for the both of you.
Okay, so while you were lounging around in your basketball shorts, you're girl was hoping that you would ask her to do something. Nothing special, just maybe spend a little time outside of the house at least acting like you we're interested in more than yourself. Yeah, I know you care about you're girl, but you see some women need a little extra reassurance to know that they are on your mind. You can tell them you "Like em" or "Love em" all day, but they still need it when they need it.
So the fact that when you're boy called and you had the strength of Hercules coursing through your veins, she snapped! She's thinking, "How is it that he isn't that excited about spending time with me?", but she won't come out and put her feelings on the line. She'll trip and rant to vent her frustrations which only pisses off you and her both.
Next time you're bored as hell just think she might be too. Surprise her with a random ass trip down the strip or cooking a nice meal for the both of you.
Next time you're bored as hell just think she might be too. Surprise her with a random ass trip down the strip or cooking a nice meal for the both of you.
Do you see how it all makes sense?
People trip when they don't know how to respond in a rational manner. They experience emotions that make them feel uncomfortable and unconsciously they lash out in some of the most uncanny ways ever witnessed. Just take a look at back at the second example in this article. What do you think happened there?
Well, ladies, while you we're hinting around daintily that you wanted to spend some quality time with your "Boo". He was responding to more direct communication, either with co-workers, constituents or even his PO, who knows. So when you called yourself dropping "hints" it was falling on deaf ears. Then when the girls called up and you got ready to go to the club, it was Pearl Harbor all over again, but this time in your bedroom.
Just think, men communicate differently than women and women respond differently than men. So you've got to find a balance with your "friend". You've got to speak his language sometimes, you can't talk to him the same way you talk to Quita at the salon or Melissa at Cosco, it has to be in a language that he understands.
Now, don't just go screaming at the man, but just be a little more direct. What's the worst that's going to happen? He gonna say "No" and you're feelings get hurt? Hopefully not, but at least when you've directly told him what you want and he chooses to do otherwise, he can't trip. He could trip, but then he'd just be looking like a damn idiot. lol (Sorry fellas)
Well, ladies, while you we're hinting around daintily that you wanted to spend some quality time with your "Boo". He was responding to more direct communication, either with co-workers, constituents or even his PO, who knows. So when you called yourself dropping "hints" it was falling on deaf ears. Then when the girls called up and you got ready to go to the club, it was Pearl Harbor all over again, but this time in your bedroom.
Just think, men communicate differently than women and women respond differently than men. So you've got to find a balance with your "friend". You've got to speak his language sometimes, you can't talk to him the same way you talk to Quita at the salon or Melissa at Cosco, it has to be in a language that he understands.
Now, don't just go screaming at the man, but just be a little more direct. What's the worst that's going to happen? He gonna say "No" and you're feelings get hurt? Hopefully not, but at least when you've directly told him what you want and he chooses to do otherwise, he can't trip. He could trip, but then he'd just be looking like a damn idiot. lol (Sorry fellas)
Ladies, a man won't break if you tell him how you really feel, but just be sure you are ready for an honest answer
I hope that this article has shed some light on the reasons your "Babe" is trippin! Let me know in the comments if you agree or disagree with words on this page. Thanks for reading, until next time.
-Jamaal(Lover Of Life)
-Jamaal(Lover Of Life)
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